It may be tempting to return home from your honeymoon and relish in the fact that you no longer need to worry about wedding details, but sending out thank-you cards is a must for any tasteful bride and groom. Weddings, especially the big ones, can be expensive to attend thanks to registries and travel costs. You want to make sure your loved ones feel appreciated for their attendance and contribution to your special day, and the easiest way to do so is a personalized form of gratitude. Consider some of the following tips when getting started on your batch of thank-you cards.
E-mail is best left for business meeting arrangements and work correspondents. To really make sure your thank-you feels genuine, hand-written is always the way to go. Plus, in a day and age where technology is pretty much everything, it’s nice to keep some tradition alive.
It may be tempting to let your presents pile up for you to spend an entire day (or two) sorting out, but this can be a lot more work than you think. By the third hour you’ll likely stop caring about sounding genuine and begin writing like a robot, so consider writing thank-you notes as you receive your gifts. This can save you a lot of stress and tediousness, and your notes will definitely come across much more genuine and heartfelt.
Personalize, personalize, personalize.
To bounce off the last point, avoid utilizing a general template for your thank-you notes. There likely won’t be a case where your guests will sit and compare them, but there’s nothing more disheartening than being given a token of gratitude that feels cold and all-purpose. Even if it takes more time and effort, make sure to personalize each thank-you note. At the very least, your friends and family will appreciate how grateful you were for them to attend.
You never know what sort of financial or emotional burden someone is going through at the moment, so don’t scoff and feel offended if you have a few guests who attend the wedding giftless. Address a thank-you note to them expressing how happy you were they attended anyway and try and acknowledge something they may have contributed otherwise (e.g. a toast, getting people on the dance floor, etc.).
Double-check your work.
Don’t let Uncle Leroy, who gifted you a hundred dollars, receive your thank-you note to Aunty Peggy for the three hundred she gave you. It’s awkward and everyone will feel bad so please, double-check your names and addresses!
by Stefanie Cimini